The first type of exercise is easy! Have your child name off a list of people (classmates, family, friends) and state one thing they like about the way each person looks. It can be one person’s hair, another’s eyes, etc. Last, ask them to name one thing about themselves. Older children can write this down.
Follow looks with things people say that are attractive, and move on to kind things they have done. End each step with the child returning to themselves for a positive thing to add to the list.
This works well in a group session,
so you can do it around the dinner table or with a class or group of playmates.
Another group activity is to have the children take turns being the ‘special child’. Have them sit in the center of the circle, and let all the other kids say one thing they like about the chosen child. All of the children get a turn, which teaches them to see the good in themselves as well as others!
A great kids self-esteem exercise involves naming off things that appeal to them. This may not seem like such a big deal, but it gives them a chance to voice their opinion, and feel that they are being taken seriously! You can also learn a lot from their answers.
Good sentences for this game include “If I were a fruit I would be a _____” or “My favorite animal is the _______because it is ________”. You can move on as they gain confidence to more personal statements, such as “Today I feel ______” or “I would like to be a ______ when I grow up because ________”.
You can progress from verbal exercises to projects, such as planting a seed and watering it (“Look at that! You made something grow!”) or participating in a craft project (again, you can have each member of the class make a nice comment about every child’s completed work).
From there you can combine many projects with kids self-esteem activities to offer them attention and praise. This will result in greater
and feelings of personal worth!