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Self-Esteem vs Self Confidence -
October 15, 2020

Self-Esteem vs Self Confidence

What is Self-Esteem?

Your self-esteem is your appraisal, your evaluation and your feelings about yourself Your self-esteem is internal. It has to do with your perception of yourself, how you see yourself and how much you like and respect yourself. A healthy self-esteem is important, but it isn't everything. It's the passive, introspective part of your psyche.

Self-esteem is your opinion of yourself.

What is Self Confidence?

Self confidence is having faith in yourself and your ability to handle whatever situations are presented to you. It is visible to those around you, because they can see you doing things with confidence and projecting an aura of belief and strength. Self confidence is active, and has a lot to do with our belief in our abilities and our interaction with the world and people around us.

Self confidence is having faith in yourself

So, basically:

Self-Esteem: I LIKE MYSELF

Self Confidence: I CAN DO IT

Can you have great self confidence without high self-esteem?

Does having great self confidence automatically point to having great self-esteem? Not necessarily. You can bluff your way through life, acting very confidently, but have horrible self-esteem. You can be very self confident in your ability to do things, but still internally hate yourself.

You can, however, use self confidence to perform actions and deeds for others and slowly repair your self-esteem if you take the time to become self aware. When you work on your self confidence, on goal setting and achievement, and develop a habit of helping others, your self respect will grow naturally.

Self confidence boils down to being able to trust your own decisions and instincts. Self confident people are often successful, focused, and flexible. They can adapt to circumstances, and actively pursue goals and objectives to help themselves and others. As a result, others come to see them as dependable and capable, which builds up self-esteem.

“Who has confidence in himself will gain the confidence of others.” - Leib Lazarow

People that are self confident prove so by their actions, not their words. Trying to impress friends, family, coworkers, or superiors is mere arrogance, and is often rooted in low self-esteem. However, many people confuse arrogance with self confidence and never move past it to true self respect and assurance.

Seeing what needs to be done and simply doing is real, active self confidence.

Actions speak louder than words.

You can think good things in your head, or talk about doing them with your mouth, but the actual doing is what builds you into a stronger, healthier person.

Can you have good self-esteem and no self confidence?

It is likewise possible to have a high self-esteem but not to have yet developed self confidence. Self-esteem is a positive attitude towards yourself. Self confidence is a positive attitude towards your abilities and performance.

If you have achieved a healthy self-esteem, you can use it to slowly build up self confidence. You won't be afraid to try new things because failure no longer threatens your view of yourself - you can accept it without beating yourself up, and try again. As you win each small victory and achieve each goal, your self confidence will rise until you find yourself stepping up to the plate in all kinds of circumstances you may never have thought possible.

Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong. - Peter T. Mcintyre

You can read a lot more about self-esteem and confidence building on the following pages:

What is self-esteem
Building high self-esteem
Building high self confidence
Improving self confidence

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Zoltan Roth

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