Everybody is different. So one day I heard two different remarks. (I work at a high school in washington).
One said " Oh look at you, you are so cute today" and the other girl said " What the heck! What are you saying? Just look at me! Ugly boots, stains on my shirt. You can´t look any better!" "Thanks, you look really great, you are so thin! everybody has something wrong with them!"
I thought that this is a good story about self esteem. You can definallty tell which one has the high and the low self esteem.