Self confidence is having faith in yourself and your ability to handle whatever situations are presented to you. You are blessed with freedom from doubt in yourself. When you need to perform a task or complete a project, you have no question in your mind that you will succeed. You are not afraid to look people in the eye or to express your thoughts.
Having confidence in yourself means you have belief in your ability to accomplish things that others would consider difficult or impossible. This type of faith in yourself inspires others around you and they often start believing that you can deliver whatever you’ve set out to do. At this point, you’ve succeeded in convincing not only yourself but other people that you will succeed.
If you have faith in yourself, you are able to laugh at yourself. You trust and believe that you’ll be able to deal with whatever life throws you, good or bad. If you know what you want and where you’re trying to go, you have self confidence. If you stay calm under pressure, because you know it’s only a matter of time until you figure out what to do, you have self confidence. Another good indicator of having adequate confidence is a sense of purpose and a willingness to take risks.
Your confidence level may fluctuate on a daily basis. A bad day at the office or an argument with your spouse may cause you to feel shaky. If you’ve overloaded your schedule and are having trouble meeting all your obligations, you may have periods of self-doubt. On the other hand, solving a problem you’ve been working on for some time will cause it to soar.
Believing in yourself can open doors for you. People are likely to agree with your interpretation of your ability to handle situations. If you believe you can handle anything, others will too.
Lacking faith in your ability to handle situations occasionally is normal. If you find that you doubt yourself more often than not, you need to work on improvement.
Most people have some faith in themselves, but could use some improvement. It is important to work on having faith in yourself each day. Choose to believe in your own ability to face life. That may sound easier said than done, but every journey begins with a single step. If you lack self-worth, building it back up will take some time, but it can be done. Here are some suggestions to get started.
Fake it till you make it. Act as if you are a person full of self confidence and very often you start to be exactly that. Dress sharply, sit straight and walk tall. Look people in the eye. Pretend you have unlimited faith in yourself even when you’re quaking in your shoes. You’ll find that when you “fake it”, and later tell people how nervous you were, they often will say “I couldn’t tell. You didn’t appear nervous at all.”
Speak up. If you lack confidence, you may speak softly or not at all. You may worry that others will ridicule or reject you if they knew what you really thought or who you really are. This is a form of reacting to what you think people are thinking. In the end, does the opinion of other people matter all that much? Ask yourself this question: How much energy do you spend worrying about what strangers are thinking? As Peter T. Mcintyre said, “Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Praise yourself. When you decide to improve your confidence, your tendency to be self-critical has to end. Look for what you do right each and every day. Don’t miss an excuse to lavish yourself with praise, even if all you can say is that you’ve been trying awfully hard.
Encourage yourself. By whatever means necessary, you need to develop the habit of self-encouragement. Picture yourself succeeding. Practice daily affirmations and keep reminding yourself that you will succeed. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”
Think positive. You have to take charge of your own mind. What are the thoughts that fill your head in the course of the day? Negative self-talk cannot be allowed to stay. When it starts, immediately replace it with a positive thought. Think about what you’ve done right and what you like about yourself. Think about the goals that you are in the process of accomplishing.
Get to know yourself. When you are trying to build self confidence, your worst enemy is yourself. The best way to defeat an enemy is to know all there is to know about him. Get to know your strengths and weaknesses. Keep track of your accomplishments, large and small. Pay attention to what types of situations make you judge yourself harshly.
Help others. Nothing builds self confidence like extending a hand to someone in need. By thinking of the needs of others, you will stop dwelling on your flaws. This is an easy thing to accomplish: most people can use some kind of help from carrying groceries to washing their car to painting their house to just being a willing ear for someone that is lonely or stressed.
Choose your friends wisely. If there are people in your life who spend their time telling you that you can’t do whatever you’re trying to do, deliberately choose to limit your time with them. Seek out positive people, people who are encouraging, people who notice what you’re doing right.
Take a class. Sign up for something you’ve always wanted to do – learn to play the guitar, learn a foreign language or learn to build a birdhouse. Being able to accomplish a new skill will give your self confidence a quick boost.
The amount of success you achieve in life has a lot to do with how much self confidence you have. Making the decision to work at improving your self confidence could be the most important decision you ever make.